I welcomed my 2 siblings back into my life with open arms but when they shunned me they were too young to know any better. My mom and dad are another story. If they apologized and were no longer emotionally abusive I would be willing to try and repair our relationship. Until then they can go to hell.
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Do those that shun us not love us?
by logansrun init is a mistake for former jehovah's witnesses to think that just because they are shunned by friends and family, they are no longer loved.
isn't shunning a horrible experience, one borne from twisted psychological reasoning?
mandated shunning from a powerful and misguided religious organization is a great sin against both the person shunned and those who are obliged, yes obliged, to shun them.
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What are the qualifications to get into Bethel?
by tyler m ini confirmed from a reliable source that my brother will be going to bethel.
we have no contact.
what requirements do you have to meet for this "honor"?
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tyler m
I confirmed from a reliable source that my brother will be going to Bethel. We have no contact. What requirements do you have to meet for this "honor"?
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The most condescending thing said to you by the (sm)elders.
by diamondblue1974 ini wasnt the most academic of children although i had some capability but i could read quite well by the time i was 4 years old at least for my age; i have always read as a child and still read now as an adult both professionally (research) and for pleasure.
i have always been able to write too...and pretty much advanced as well as my peers did in school...perhaps i am lucky, i certainly feel like i am when illiteracy amongst adults and children is rife at present...however.. i remember when i was 16 the wts in the uk were pushing through a scheme teaching those who were not as able to read and write...and an elder in the hall made a point of coming to me and suggesting that i should actually attend the training!!
!....i explained that i could read and write well enough and didnt need to be taught basic literacy... he said that i might learn something new and should respect jehovahs order of things and show appreciation...i did decline his kind offer rather abruptly....but wtf??
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tyler m
Which time? During college I worked as a bus boy to make ends meet. One of many jobs I had. An elder told me "so this is what you are doing with your life"? Bastard! I really needed the job, otherwise he would have been eating his food off the floor. He cleaned officies for a living. That's all he ever did. I wish he could see me now. I bet I make more in a week than he does in 3 months.
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So how long has everyone been out?
by tyler m ini stopped all jw activity on june 12, 1996. my 18th birthday.
i made arrangements to stay with some friends and they even lined me up a summer job.
i snuck out in the middle of the night and left my parents a note.
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zug,
I think DA'ing is the way to go. Most of my ex jw friends strongly object to the concept but if I had to do it over again I would DA. I should have left a DA letter on my bed when I left home. That way no stalking elders and I would have only have to put up with my parents for a little while. It would be known that I rejected that cult and not the other way around. Anyway good luck with your DA.
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So how long has everyone been out?
by tyler m ini stopped all jw activity on june 12, 1996. my 18th birthday.
i made arrangements to stay with some friends and they even lined me up a summer job.
i snuck out in the middle of the night and left my parents a note.
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blondie,
I believed it was the truth when I left and was baptized. Since I had such a miserable childhood I did not want to be in "paradise" and live forever with JW's. I also hated the jw god Jehovah and did not want to worship him. I decided that before I died at armageddon I was going to live life to the fullest and for a teenager that meant lots of well use your imagination.
It was actually "unbelievers" dad that told me the truth about the truth. Boy was I relieved that I was not going to die at armageddon. I was having too much fun.
sandy,
There was rampant gossip in my congregation as well. You could always count on the elders squealing to their wives and then before you knew it everybody knew. You could walk into a room and they would be in their little groups and they would go silent. Then you could hear the whispers. If only the elders wives knew what their daughters had done with me. They would not be gossiping.
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So how long has everyone been out?
by tyler m ini stopped all jw activity on june 12, 1996. my 18th birthday.
i made arrangements to stay with some friends and they even lined me up a summer job.
i snuck out in the middle of the night and left my parents a note.
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tyler m
I stopped all JW activity on June 12, 1996. My 18th birthday. I made arrangements to stay with some friends and they even lined me up a summer job. I snuck out in the middle of the night and left my parents a note. Then the stalking by them and the elders started but that is another story.
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Please welcome Tyler to the board
by unbeliever ini have been showing him posts.
he's an xjw and has been out for several years.
i will get him registered and he will post.. thanks!.
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carmel,
There should be some kind of law that dfing should not be allowed so young or banned all together. I know it will never happen in this country. I was 13 my first time. I've been out for 9 years so I have made a new life for myself and have friends who I consider to be my family. It's all good.
confusedjw,
I will answer that question in a couple of weeks. I am staying at her house right now while my house is being remodeled. She might kick me out and then I will have to pay for a hotel. I'm way to cheap.
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Please welcome Tyler to the board
by unbeliever ini have been showing him posts.
he's an xjw and has been out for several years.
i will get him registered and he will post.. thanks!.
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tyler m
thanks for the welcome everyone.
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JW Kids Leave the Organization: Facts
by Maximus inthe october 1 watchtower 2001 features articles on training children "properly" and dealing with a "prodigal child.
the latest inside u.s. figures reveal that 86% of jw children leave the fold, with some 29% who eventually come back for reasons of family ties, most never "reaching out.
" that means over half leave permanently.
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tyler m
This thread rings true with me. Before I was even born my parents had my whole future mapped out for me. I was going to be an elder and serve where the need was great in a foreign country after I served time in Bethel. My parents were very strict. I felt immense pressure to be perfect. Going to sleep at the kingdom hall would get me an ass beating.
I was baptized at age 11. I did not know what I was in for all I knew it's what my parents wanted. I wanted to make them happy. I thought for some reason after I got baptized my parents would be so proud of me that they would be less critical of me and my mistakes. It did not turn out like that. They expected more of me. I spent my summers and school vactions in field service. I was misterable. From age 0-12 I was an ideal jw child. Something in me snapped. I decided I was sick of field service, family study, meetings, and everything having to do with the witnesses. I started to rebel. I decided to be a bad ass and took up smoking. Of course the inevitable happened and I was caught smoking at school. Never ever in a million years did I think I would get disfellowshipped. The elders said I was not "repentant". They were right, I wasn't but I was devastated none the less. I went to KH on a Sunday as golden boy and the next meeting I was a sinner, lower than dirt.
My parents were beyond devastated. Dad had to step down as an elder and mom could no longer pioneer. They needed to concentrate on me. I lived like a prisoner and they pulled me out of school and I was home schooled.
I was reinstated within a few months but that time in my life left its scars. After that I knew I did not want to be a witness but I had to play the game to keep my parents off my back. After I was reinstated I never reached out for anything again. I did the minimum and tried to stay off the radar.
I behaved myself for the next few years until I discovered sex. I had sex with mostly witness girls starting at age 16 and was not caught until I was 17. I slept with this one witness girl who felt she had to confess because she was afraid of dying at armageddon. She went to the elders and confessed. I did not want to get disfellowshipped again so I said she was lying and crazy.
They did not believe me. Looking back I don't know why I even bothered to lie. They did an investigation and they got another girl I slept with to confess that we had sex. So I get disfellowshipped again. Dad has to step down as an elder AGAIN.
So for the next year I lived in hell. I was worried sick they might try and pull me out of school again but they didn't. The shunning was not as bad the second time around because I knew what to expect. My parents tried like hell to make me develop an apprecation for Jehovah. They knew deep down I was gone but they still tried. The only thing I could do was go to meetings and get reinstated and bide my time till I turned 18. I was reinstated right before my 18th birthday. I moved out of the house on my birthday.
That did not go over very well with the elders and my parents. They started stalking me. Long story short 2 months after I was reinstated I was disfellowshipped again for fornication. I wanted to be disfellowshipped so that I could be left alone. It worked. Even though I have a lot of anger toward my parents and some of the witnesses I still miss them. I know they wanted what was best for me but I did not want that life. I have three younger siblings and I managed to connect with 2 of them 3 years ago when they left the the "truth". They are both now disfellowshipped for fornication and my parents blame me.
We have no contact with our brother. I heard he applied to Bethel. We only talk with JW family for necessary family business which is hardly ever.
Still I am glad to be out of the "truth" and I hope one day my JW family sees the light like I have and leave the cult.
tyler
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Please welcome Tyler to the board
by unbeliever ini have been showing him posts.
he's an xjw and has been out for several years.
i will get him registered and he will post.. thanks!.
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tyler m
hello. my name is tyler. "unbeliever" told me about this place and i had to check it out. i've forgotten a lot of stuff. reading these threads has brought back a lot of memories. about me i am 3rd generation and left when i got disfellowshipped for the 3rd time at age 18. i have not looked back. i miss my family but life goes on. i look forward to reading more posts here.
tyler